What Causes
Women To Leave Men
Why do women leave men?
Interesting question, isn't it? We've all had women leave us...
And we've all been in the situation, wondering why she was
leaving... and willing to do literally ANYTHING to get her to
stay. Read the following scenarios, and nod your head silently if
you can identify with any of them:
-You met an incredible woman, and you really hit it off at the
beginning. But the more time you spent with her, the less
interested she became... but the MORE interested you became. You
could feel the balance of power shifting, but there was nothing
you could do about it. Eventually she just stopped seeing you, but
she never explained why in a way that made any sense...
-You were seeing a woman for several months, maybe even a year or
so. Everything seemed fine. But then one day she came to you and
said "I don't know how I feel anymore, and I just need some time
ALONE... some time to 'find myself'... it's not YOU, it's ME"...
but her time "alone" turned into her seeing some other guy that
didn't treat her half as well as you did...
-You were in a serious long-term relationship that had lasted more
than a couple of years, and you were with the woman you thought
you'd spend the rest of your life with. Sure, you had your
problems, but you knew that you'd always work through whatever
came up, and she would stick by your side forever. Out of nowhere,
she started acting strange... she started to become more
controlling and angry... no matter how hard you tried to make her
feel better and do nice things, it only got worse. They she
dropped the bomb that she didn't love you anymore, and she was
leaving. Or maybe she cheated on you, then told you as her way of
breaking up...
...of course, there are a million variations of these basic
situations, but I'll bet you can identify with one of them.
I can identify with ALL of them. In fact, I've been through each
of them... some more than once. And I'll tell you... I can
remember the PAIN and the DESPERATION I felt each time.
I mean, it SUCKED. I hated it.
Probably the WORST part of it was the feeling of POWERLESSNESS
that went along with each time.
It's bad enough having the woman you like or love leave you... but
to have to ALSO deal with the fact that you don't know how to
change things, and there's NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT is just
plain depressing.
Again, if you've been there, nod silently with me...
Now let's talk about how to AVOID this kind of thing in the
future.
THE PROBLEM ISN'T WHAT YOU THINK
The first thing you must realize in this type of situation is that
the problem you're dealing with isn't what you think it is. Most
guys naturally assume that the woman is leaving them because he's
not being "nice" enough, or he's not giving her what she wants, or
he's not being a good boyfriend... etc.
Or they assume that this is just "one of those things that
happens", that "feelings change" and that there's really nothing
he could have done anyway.
Well, these ideas, and almost all the others that most guys think,
are DEAD WRONG.
So STEP ONE is for you to realize that what you THINK you know is
WRONG. Throw it out. Start over, and open your mind to a new way
of seeing things. I'll share more on this later.
YOU CAN'T SOLVE IT WITH MORE OF THE SAME
Now I want to talk about what NOT to do.
I know that this is going to sound pretty obvious, but if what
you're doing isn't working in a particular situation, you need to
STOP. Don't keep doing what's not working.
In other words, if the woman you love is breaking up with you, and
you've been being nice to her, doing whatever she wants, and
telling her that you'll do anything to make it better... if only
she'll stay... then STOP.
Stop doing that.
Whatever it is you're doing that isn't working ISN'T WORKING. Duh.
So stop it immediately. More of the same is only going to get you
more of what is happening.
WHY ATTRACTION IS SO IMPORTANT
One of the main reasons why I talk about and teach the concept of
ATTRACTION is that when it comes to these types of situations, the
REAL underlying reason for them is usually that the woman doesn't
feel ATTRACTION anymore.
When it all boils down, she just plain does not FEEL IT. Now, a
woman will say and do all kinds of things OTHER than telling you
that this is the problem.
Women have all these ideas in their heads like "I can't tell him
how I REALLY feel because I don't want to hurt his feelings" and
"I can't tell him what's going on because I don't want to
emasculate him" and "It's just easier if I just go away".
Love it.
But when you take away all of the B.S., and you get right to the
core of what's going on, you'll usually find that it all boils
down to ATTRACTION... or, more specifically, the LACK of
ATTRACTION.
I'm going to say something that's pretty bold right now. Get
ready.
If you do not know how to make a woman feel the GUT LEVEL physical
and emotional response called ATTRACTION, then you are going to be
out of control in relationships, and will very likely have women
leave you for the rest of your life.
There is no security when you don't "get it" in the ATTRACTION
department. And you know EXACTLY what I'm talking about. Women
KNOW that they have the upper hand with most men.
As a guy, you can FEEL IT when a woman "has you by the balls". And
even if she's not evil or mean, a woman can still crush you
emotionally when she's in this powerful position.
Well, guess what?
YOU'RE THE ONE WHO GIVES HER THIS POWER.
And if you choose, you can KEEP this power for YOURSELF.
SOLVE THE PROBLEM BEFORE IT STARTS
Now, the BEST way to deal with this particular problem is to SOLVE
it BEFORE it even starts. The absolute most important prevention
method is an understanding of female psychology and ATTRACTION.
Here are a few pointers to get you started:
1) Women are NEVER attracted to WUSSIES. Women don't feel
ATTRACTION for weak men.
Sure, if you chase a woman for long enough, and buy her enough
things, she may "fall" for you. But in that case it's not because
she feels ATTRACTION for you. OHHHHH NO. It's because she feels
AFFECTION for you, and she confuses it with ATTRACTION.
So if your Inner Wussy has been taking the wheel, EVICT IT!
Bitch-slap the Wuss out of yourself. Do it now.
2) Don't be PREDICTABLE. Predictability is a mortal sin when it
comes to attraction.
If a woman can guess what you're going to do or say, you're being
predictable. If she CAN'T guess what you're going to do or say,
she'll always be wondering...
Now, keep in mind that women are MUCH better at predicting
behavior than men. So if you're going to stop being predictable,
then you're going to need to LEARN how. To begin with, PAUSE
before you do and say things. Think about what you'd normally do,
then DO SOMETHING ELSE. Throw in some crazy, off-the-wall stuff
for good measure. Predictable is BAD BAD BAD for business.
3) Don't be BORING.
Boring is the bastard child of Predictable.
When you are SO predictable that NOTHING is new or different, then
you are officially BORING. Boring is also the lack of adventure,
passion, energy, humor, and ATTRACTION.
Unfortunately, most men are REALLY REALLY REALLLLLLLLLLLLY boring.
I mean like shoot-yourself boring.
Like, if there was a "Boring Score" that took into account
everything from food to clothing to interests to conversation,
most men would score a 99.75 on a 100 scale. It's a bad situation.
I used to be pretty damn boring myself, so boring, in fact, that I
could probably be certified as an expert on the topic. So take it
from me, BORING is BAD. I don't care WHAT you have to do to stop
being boring, but do it.
A few quick ideas:
Take up an interesting hobby. Think wine collecting, not comic
book collecting.
Mountain biking, not chemistry.
Fashion, not X-Box.
You feel me?
Now, this is just a taste. More important than what you do and
talk about is HOW you do it and talk about it.
There is a way to communicate with women that prevents you from
being boring. I suggest that you pay attention to the things
you're learning from me so you "get it".
IF THINGS GET BAD, BREAK UP FIRST
Now I'm going to REALLY stick my neck out. This one is going to
make the little baby hairs stand up on the backs of necks of women
all over the world...
If you find yourself in one of these bad situations that I
mentioned above, and you sense that the woman in your life is
about to leave, then BREAK UP WITH HER FIRST.
DO IT.
Don't hesitate.
Cut the line.
Hit the road.
No matter what your emotions tell you to do, you have to end it
FIRST. If you want to have ANY chance of having things work out in
the LONG RUN, then you need to TAKE CONTROL of the situation, and
BREAK UP WITH HER.
From this position, you will then be able to see things more
clearly, and she will be about 100 times more likely to want to
work things out with you. If you REALLY want to increase your
chances of having things work out, then you should also start
dating other women as well.
But let's not talk too much about that, because I'm already in the
danger zone here. If you take the time to think about it, you'll
realize that breaking up with her FIRST is the best possible thing
you can do.
As you've heard me say quite a few times, it's important to give a
woman the GIFT of MISSING YOU. Never is it more important than in
one of THESE situations.
I know, this is a damn hard thing to do when you're in the heat of
the moment... but if you don't do it, you'll probably wind up with
her leaving... and you feeling that lame POWERLESS feeling that I
described earlier.
OK, so to wrap, let me talk about one more thing...
As I mentioned before, the REAL thing that causes women to LEAVE
comes down to the man in her life not understanding ATTRACTION and
how to make her FEEL IT for him. And, as I mentioned, no woman is
EVER going to TELL this to you. Instead, she's just going to
LEAVE.
When I first started learning all of this stuff about how to be
successful with women and dating, I had NO IDEA that I would wind
up solving the mystery of why women LEAVE men. I was only looking
for the answer to how to get a woman in the first place... I never
even thought about KEEPING one once I got her...
But now I realize that this particular topic usually winds up
being the most important one, because once you find that amazing
woman, and get something good going, you certainly don't want to
LOSE her.
And when you find yourself in the situation, and you realize that
the woman you have is about to leave... you would basically do
ANYTHING to stop it. Of course, at that point it's usually TOO
LATE to do anything... which sucks.
So one of the most important things you can do RIGHT NOW in your
life is to learn how and why women feel ATTRACTION for some men...
and how to make women feel it for you.
And
what's the best way to do it?
I have an idea...
I'm the only person I know of in the history of the planet who has
designed an entire program around how to make women feel
ATTRACTION for you, then written the ebook so you can save
yourself several YEARS of trial and error... not to mention
hundreds or thousands of hours of study and research.
Yes, that's right... it's as close to a "miracle cure" as you're
going to get, dude.
...and if you'd like to get an introduction to my basic concepts
and techniques, then you need to go download my online ebook
"Double Your Dating" right now. You can download it right now and
be reading it in just a few minutes. It's here:
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Look, man.
No one is going to do this for you.
You need to do it for YOURSELF. So get to it.
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I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
