A Wake Up Call
For All Good Guys
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by The Dating Wizard
We are living in interesting times. On one hand, men and women are
free to be sexual with each other like no time ever before in
history. You can be sexual with who you want when you want- and
there's far less stigma than before- less pressure to get married
very early, less pressure to marry a certain type of person, etc.
And everywhere you look, you are bombarded by images of being
cool, looking sexy, etc. There are endless products out there to
make you look good, smell good, etc.
Yet on the other hand, for the most part, guys have never been so
UNcool before, ever in history! And there has never been such a
massive gap between the guys who KNOW how to deal with women and
the guys who DON'T.
There are reasons for this, and I'd like to touch on them here.
It's important to understand this in order to realize the gravity
of the situation. If you don't know what the situation really is,
you cannot solve it.
It used to be simple for 99.99 percent of human history:
Men were needed for their hunting abilities and men were needed
for the protection they provided. Women were needed to bear
children and raise them, and to help gather food.
Also, men "worked" separately from women- whether it was hunting
or working the land, the men were in one place and the women were
working either by gathering food, or by rearing children or both.
So there was less opportunity for men and women to be unfaithful,
although there was still PLENTY of unfaithfulness since the
beginning of time- but at least there was a BALANCE between men
and women when it came to this issue.
Today, things are different.
First of all, almost every technological development, every legal
change, every social change, in the western world has had the
effect of STRENGTHENING women's power, while WEAKENING men's
power.
Think about it- technology has made MUSCLE less necessary. We have
machines that can do almost all of the hard work necessary for
survival. We've also kind of outgrown that living in the jungle
thing and hunting thing. So in one sense, testosterone and
strength are not exactly what they once were from a sheer
bargaining point.
So men have lost some of their natural purpose. (Don't worry
though, because as you'll soon see, women still NEED you to behave
as a MAN in order to get turned on.)
A woman once needed a man with some muscle and some testosterone
and aggression for survival and protection.
So men and women were a natural match, and men and women evolved
to feel attraction to their opposite gender's natural attributes
and characteristics.
Today, those characteristics are from a rational point of view
obsolete- we don't NEED those behaviors or attributes to survive-
i.e. we have security systems, and we have LAWS that pretty much
protect us. So we learned to REPRESS these behaviors that no
longer are "logical". The problem is that since man's ability to
attract women lies ESPECIALLY in his behaviors, repressing those
natural behaviors is particularly damaging to his sexual appeal.
Whereas for a woman, from a sexual standpoint, her behavior is not
nearly as important as her appearance. So attractive women these
days still have nearly the same sexual power as they did long ago,
while today only the guys who "got game" and the guys who are BAD
BOYS possess this same power.
Most attractive women are not afraid of toying with a nice guy and
using him if he allows himself to be used. And if a nice guy does
find out, the best thing he can do is just walk away- but there is
very little deterrent for a woman to NOT use a nice guy-
especially since on a NON LOGICAL level- the EMOTIONAL level, she
feels NOTHING for him, since he is NOT acting the way NATURE
designed him to act.
So attractive women will toy with nice guys till their heart's
content. But of course, if we are to believe the b.s. we are
bombarded with by Oprah Winfrey types, men are always the bad
guys.
The truth is there is only a very small percentage of men who are
"bad guys".
Okay, back to THE WORKPLACE issue:
As I said, there used to be a time when women and men had far less
interaction with each other en masse since they worked in separate
fields completely. This meant that for a man in a relationship,
his wife was home, and that allowed for far less opportunities for
other men to "play game" on his "woman".
Today, however, since women are so intertwined with men in the
workplace, women are far more vulnerable to be manipulated by a
guy who knows how to exploit a woman's emotions. Often, first,
she'll feel awesome by this new guy who knows how to pull her
strings. Then, much later,
she'll feel horrible, only to fall prey to another guy who does
the same thing to her. This is a new threat to relationships that
never existed before the natural division of labor was obliterated
by technology.
Women are highly EMOTIONAL creatures. Their emotions are like
buttons on a computer- press the right ones in the right
combination and you can do almost anything.
MEN ARE SIMPLY NOT THE SAME IN THIS REGARD.
Sure, some men may be unfaithful just like some women, but most
men are not, and moreover, even when a man does "cheat" he RARELY
cheats because a woman "played" with his emotions. It just doesn't
happen like that.
But everyday, women in relationships fall for guys who know how to
play the "game", especially when the guy they are in the committed
relationship with does NOT know how the game works.
The bottom line is that if you are a good guy, you better learn
how to play that game because you can no longer depend on society
or the natural state of things to protect your relationship. By
the way, women are not to blame for this whole situation.
If women actually WANTED any of this so called progress, then all
those executive women who are the CEO's of various companies would
not be lining up for Prozac like they are doing.
"You've come a long way, baby" but no one ever said it was the way
women wanted to go.
Look, you show me a woman who is "successful" and I'll show you a
woman who wants a man far MORE successful than her. Why? Because
women only get turned on by men who seem MORE dominant and HIGHER
up than them. So much for women wanting a guy who is EQUAL to
them, huh?
Now before anyone thinks I'm a mean guy, let me say I am all for
women having equal rights, but what I am NOT for is the idea of
promoting a fallacy that women want a man who is EQUAL to THEM.
That is why it is crucial that you assert a little dominance with
women. Today, attractive women often use their sexuality as a form
of RAW POWER- this is why attractive women will use men EVERYWHERE
to do all kinds of things for them.
They will attempt to tease men with their sexuality and attempt to
intimidate or control or bargain with it- whether it's at a club
for free drinks, or a guy to do their homework for her! Of course,
a few generations ago, women could not as easily do this, since
they were separated from men till marriage. The new structure of
society allows women to take advantage of innocent ignorant men.
However, this all BACKFIRES when a woman encounters a man who
knows how to PLAY the GAME.
A Wake Up Call
For All Good Guys
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by The Dating Wizard
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Till next time,
Michael W.
