It's No Big Deal
[Real World Seduction]
If you have been following my newsletters you probably have
noticed that I have been revealing some big pieces to the puzzle
on generating ATTRACTION in women. Today I am going to share with
you something that most guys - even guys who are good with women -
don't consciously know. Knowing this secret could very well sky
rocket your success with women.
Before moving on to this secret, I am going to review some basics.
As you probably know if you have read my book and been reading my
newsletters, ATTRACTION is not what women prefer. The collective
female prefers a baby faced, tall muscular man, blessed with a
monster sized sausage and a tongue with a gifted touch. Why do you
think boy bands rake in so much cash? Hello!! - this is what women
prefer. This, however, is not what ATTRACTION is.
ATTRACTION is what you do to a woman's mind and body. The “body”
part is creating the emotion inside her of wanting and reaching
for more of you, which in my book I call PRIZING. The “mind” part
is you establishing that you are the PRIZE to be won over, which
in my book I call PRIZABILITY.
Before you can start PRIZING a woman - generating inside her the
emotion of wanting, reaching, and chasing for more of you - you
must establish PRIZABILITY.
A powerful method for establishing PRIZABILITY with a woman is
conveying that you are of slightly higher perceived value than
her. Higher perceived value means: her believing that she has more
to gain from you than you do from her. Am I saying that you should
establish this through promising expensive gifts and buying her
lots of overpriced drinks? No!! Doing this would only establish
that you are her human ATM machine. Bad thing!
Am I suggesting that you establish PRIZABILITY by treating her
like a jerk? Not at all!
Establishing higher perceived value is about you conveying to her
that she has more to gain from you than you do from her because of
who you are.
Establishing PRIZABILITY - establishing that you are the PRIZE -
sets the groundwork for generating ATTRACTION with a woman. If you
currently are not as good as you could be at establishing
PRIZABILITY you need to get my book today. By not having mastered
this skill, you are cheating yourself out of a lot of success with
women. My book goes into painstaking detail on exactly what steps
you need to take to consistently establish PRIZABILITY with women.
Another key concept for generating massive ATTRACTION with women
is having a strong intent. Having a strong intent is having the
DESIRE and the WILL to do what needs to be done to achieve a
particular outcome, coupled with the unwavering belief that you
will achieve this intended outcome.
If a person has the DESIRE and the WILL to do what needs to be
done to succeed with a woman but does not have the BELIEF that he
can, he will come across as needy. If you do not yet have a strong
intent, reread my article “Demystifying Charisma,” and reread the
chapter in my book on beliefs.
Okay, we got the basics out of the way. Now for the secret most
guys DON'T KNOW. But first, I am going to tell you how I
discovered this secret. Around three years ago while hanging out
at a bookstore I met a woman lumbered with one of the most
spectacular bodies I have ever seen. She, furthermore, happened to
be bisexual and into having threesomes!! Her and I really hit it
off, and ended up having sex in the bookstore's parking lot.
Afterwards, I tried coaxing her into having a threesome with me.
She, alas, resisted. This frustrated me and I sought advice. One
guy gave me some golden advice.
To paraphrase his words, “One of the worst things you can do when
trying to get a woman to have a threesome with you is ASSUMING
that it is a big
deal. Instead assume it is NO BIG DEAL, and a lot of fun. Pitch
the idea to her the same way, for example, you would suggest that
it would be fun for the two of you to get ice cream.”
These words apply to more than having threesomes with women.
Whatever your intended outcome with a woman is - whether it is,
for example, getting her number, getting her to go on a date with
you, or getting her back to your house - ASSUME IT'S NO BIG DEAL,
and a lot of fun.
Women are like professional psychics when it comes to picking up
on when MEN ASSUME that something is a big deal. Even if we don't
explicitly communicate that we think something is a big deal,
women somehow always intuitively know. I have a female friend of
mine who told me that she always knows when a guy is scared to
kiss her. “When a man thinks it is a big deal to kiss a girl he
unconsciously displays all sorts of nervous and indecisive body
movements conveying his fear,” she told me.
Assuming that something is a big deal can stifle your chances of
achieving your intended outcome in two ways.
One is that by doing this you are lowering your perceived value in
her eyes. She will stop seeing you as a PRIZE to be won over. When
you ASSUME, for example, that it is a really big deal to ask for a
girl's number, it conveys to her that she is of higher of value
than you. By doing this you are, unknowingly, ESTABLISHING that
she is the PRIZE to be won over, not you.
Two is that when women intuit you assuming that something is a big
deal, they begin to believe it is a big deal as well. How women
feel about doing something with you is oftentimes a mirror image
of how you feel about doing something with them. If you are
nervous, they will become nervous too. If you, for example, ASSUME
getting a woman to go out with you is a big deal, she will pick up
on your nervous energy and feel the same way.
When you, however, ASSUME that achieving your intended outcome
with a woman is NO BIG DEAL, your perceived value in her eyes will
increase. Furthermore, ASSUMING that your intended outcome is NO
BIG DEAL will often times put a woman at ease making her assume
that your intended outcome is no big deal. When you have perceived
value in a woman's eyes and she construes your intended outcome as
no big deal, it makes it very easy to get what you want.
There have been women I have slept with after only knowing them
for a short amount of time - in some cases, as short as twenty
five minutes! I was able to do this because I ASSUMED it was no
big deal, and a lot of fun.
Also, if a woman puts up resistance when trying to kiss her, DON'T
become distraught. Instead, keep your composure by ASSUMING it to
be no big deal. Then, try again a few minutes later using my
physical push-push technique from my book.
Of course having the mindset that achieving your intended outcome
is no big deal is easier to achieve if you have the skill sets for
both establishing yourself as the PRIZE and creating the emotion
inside a woman of her wanting, reaching, chasing for more of you.
As far as I know, my book is the only available material that goes
into extreme depth, breaking down these skill sets into a
step-by-step easy to learn system.
To learn more about my step-by-step system for attracting women
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'Til next time,
Swinggcat
