The Invisible
Reality
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by The Dating Wizard
One of the major hurdles that guys need to overcome in order to
succeed with women is to CHANGE THEIR VERY CORE concept of how
they PERCEIVE women. The concept that most guys have is
fundamentally NOT TRUE.
This is a huge point.
Because, when a person perceives the world a certain way, that
person will do everything in his power to hold on to that
long-held concept, even if he is shown TONS of evidence that his
concept of the world is not true.
We hold on to our old concepts because it’s actually quite SCARY
at first to think that maybe we’ve been fooled all these years.
But I ask you what’s worse:
Suffering a lifetime of ignorance, or waking up from the ignorance
and learning the truth, and learning how to DEAL with that reality
and even THRIVE in that reality?
A MAJOR portion of guys misunderstandings about women are the
result of how most guys interpret our current popular culture.
What happens is that in the movies, it seems that women really
want romance, and that they really want a nice guy, and that love
is really the most important thing to a woman. And what really
seems to be the reinforcing point is that chicks LOVE these
movies, be it Titanic, or any modern version of Romeo and Juliet.
For a long period, I used to get ANGRY from the messages being
sent out by popular culture- because the lessons that guys learn
are the exact OPPOSITE of what they need to know for REAL LIFE
success with women:
The reality is that men need to learn to show and feel
INDEPENDENCE, a bit of arrogance, tons of self-esteem, and an
absolute aura that says “I don’t need one bit of anything or
anyone and I am totally happy and content in this world”.
The WORST thing men should do is try to appeal to the “nice”
loving side of women, or to make her think you want affection or
that you want to give affection. Actually you should do MORE than
just make sure she doesn’t THINK you are a wuss, you must make
sure you AREN’T a wuss!
We were BRAINWASHED into being needy.
As guys, we are not NATURALLY needy. The idea that we are
naturally needy is absurd. You must actually develop a strong
sense of self-esteem that is independent of whether a woman likes
you or not.
THAT is the way to success with women.
For example, if I am chatting with a buddy, and some chick is
trying to get my attention, I will NOT stop my buddy and start to
kiss up to the chick just because she’s a chick, no matter how
hot. She is not superior to him.
Now how many guys are willing to do that?
The thing is, I really mean it, I’m not just doing it because I
know it triggers attraction. It’s a result of not needing the
approval of a chick simply because she is a chick. If she has
earned my respect as a person, that’s something else.
So I used to be ANGRY at the movies and at all the romantic crap
because the truth is, that I had wasted years LOVING those movies
and pop music and I had felt BETRAYED when I had learned the
TRUTH. However, in my journey to truly understanding women, I came
to realize that actually there was a lot of TRUTH in popular
culture, but I simply didn’t “get it”, and neither did most of the
other billions of men out there.
The TRUTH was there, but it was INVISIBLE to me.
You see, the reality is that if you observe closely, you’ll see
that the movies and other forms of popular culture actually teach
you a LOT about success with women, IF you ALREADY know what
works, and what the truth is:
In almost ANY romantic movie of quality, you’ll notice that the
woman ONLY feels those strong emotions and all that “niceness” for
the guy AFTER he displays that he is THE MAN. He shows her tons of
self-confidence, cockyness, aloofness, independence, and charisma.
But most guys watch the movie and come out IGNORING this, and come
to only the wrong conclusion:
Guys walk out of these movies thinking that women want romance and
niceness and love and all that, but they FORGET that the chick
ONLY wants all this with a guy who is BEYOND THEIR CONTROL in
every sense of the word!
i.e. A guy who is so strong emotionally, so full of self-esteem,
and so emotionally independent, that NOTHING she could offer could
make him MELT into an ass-kisser. And that’s not it, either,
there’s more, as an awesome friend of mine pointed out to me. (And
for guys who make it to the seminar, this guy is gonna be a guest
speaker!)
Notice that the entire kissing and mushyness tends to last about a
total of 5 minutes, and it’s mostly in THE LAST REEL of the flick!
Do you know what that means?
IT MEANS THAT THE PASSION, THE MOMENT THE WOMAN HAS BEEN WAITING
FOR…HAS BEEN DELAYED TILL THE VERY LAST SECOND!!! For MOST of the
flick, the woman is NOT GETTING the guy!!!!!
She is NOT getting the love!!!
She is NOT getting the romance!!!
Instead, she is DREAMING and CRAVING it because she is NOT getting
it.
You see, most guys, at the first sign of a little interest from a
woman, totally melt and give her LOTS of what she wants, and give
it to her right away. This leads to BOREDOM and in fact RESENTMENT
on the woman’s part. So NO MATTER WHAT WOMEN SAY, if they tell you
too EARLY to melt down and soften up, or when they tell you they
love you really fast and too early, don’t go for the bait…because
deep down, they DON’T WANT YOU TO! They want PASSION, give them
the greatest gift of all by knowing the secrets to building TRUE
PASSION.
Remember, those romance movies that the chicks love consist mostly
of the guy NOT giving the woman what she wants!
The Invisible Reality
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